The Self-Love Recovery Podcast

The Moment I Stopped Chasing Love — Everything Changed

Ross Rosenberg, M. Ed.

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In this podcast, therapist and author Ross Rosenberg — with 37 years of experience — explains why working harder, being kinder, or trying to "figure out" your partner will never get you the love you crave. The real problem? Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD).

Ross breaks down how core shame, pathological loneliness, and childhood attachment trauma keep you trapped in cycles with narcissists — and why no amount of effort can fix a relationship built on an unstable foundation. He introduces his concept of relationship math, explains the difference between self-love deficit and self-love abundance, and shares his 11 promises of what life looks like on the other side.

If you're ready to stop running on the hamster wheel and start building real, lasting love — it starts with the person in the mirror.

📘 Recommended reading: The Codependency Revolution

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG 
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. 

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. 

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